Monthly Archives: May 2018

What Language Are You Speaking?

Congratulations on your decision to buy _____________ (fill in the blank).

Don’t worry about all the paperwork of the legal jargon just sign here and here and here and we’ll take are of everything else for you…

Too often when we decide to make a purchase the requires signing paperwork that includes agreeing to things that we don’t take the time to read through it just might lead to something harmful. In the end though we’re willing to do sign and move on because we don’t understand what has been written down.

In most situations if we were to take the time to read through the extra paperwork it might take a while, but in the end, we would find that it does make sense. Even though some of it truly is repetitive hogwash that is there to cover someone’s backside.

Most of the confusion comes when someone tries to explain it to us.

Either they have no idea of what they’re trying to tell us, or they are putting it in terms that they completely understand but no one else can because they feel everyone else speaks at the same level of comprehension as they do.

When speaking to others it’s necessary to speak at their level of understanding otherwise they won’t be listening very long. If you’re an attorney and you’re speaking to other attorneys it’s okay to talk in legal jargon, but if your audience is familiar with legal terminology then it’s best to scale the language back and use words they understand. This applies to written as well as verbal.

I do believe that it’s so important to make certain you understand you’re talking at the same level is so important I want to take this one step further.

How often have you had a conversation go sour because the other person just couldn’t agree with you over something that you felt was so simple?

Here’s the question I have, were you both talking about the same thing? When the discussion starts to get heated make sure that you’re first talking about the same thing before trying to resolve anything.

Believe in yourself,

Warren La Duke

Rock and a Hard Place

Was reading an article recently about how things in society are just so out of balance. As I looked back through that article I began to think that the author made some good points, but for some reason I felt something was missing still.

Consider how much our world today is set up for the now, getting things faster is better, and we’ll deal with the problems as they arise along the way.

That’s the immediate gratification way of thinking that the world has fallen into.

And, depending on the circumstances there will be times when acting now is better than later. To sit and wait to see if prices for material will fall when the need to replace or fix is now isn’t the best way to approach proper maintenance of anything.

One can also overdo what is on the other end of the spectrum, delayed gratification. If you know that your house will need a new roof in two years, then it’s best to begin planning and saving now so that in two years it can be preplaced. Rather than putting it off longer and having to act when leaks occur, and you’re not prepared financially or able to locate a contractor to do the work.

Because everything we do deals with people, be it ourselves or someone else, somethings that we should always keep in mind include:

  • Consider is what we’re about to do necessary, and why?
  • Does someone benefit from this, and is what about to take place more important for me and or them?
  • Have I considered all the options that are available to me, or have I looked at too many?
  • Should I consider an opinion of someone who’s been there, someone who has the cookies and is considered an expert?
  • What if I were to take a moment and step away, let my mind clear, sleep on it one night; how would I feel after the dust settles?

As Rolf Dobelli refers to in his book, “The Art of Thinking Clearly,” all this should be referred to as alternative blindness, where we forget to compare our options to other alternatives that exist.

Knowing that other alternatives are available allows us to forget about any rock or hard place!

Believe in yourself,

Warren La Duke